Every person is unique and internally whole. This is a statement I wholeheartedly believe in as a coach. It’s possible to consider this “wholeness” in many different dimensions and break it down into its components. Science has long been exploring and examining various concepts believed to be part of this whole, such as experiences, genetic coding, body, soul, mind, heart, personality, intellectual intelligence, and emotional intelligence, to answer the question of what this whole is, what causes it, and why it does what it does. It strives to solve this challenging puzzle so that humanity can achieve the “superhuman” State.
While this research continues, let’s turn our focus to what we currently possess to become our own “superior” person. The good news is that we already have a very powerful tool at our disposal, one we don’t use very often or consciously. Let’s think of our personality, a component of our whole, not as a monolith, but as a cluster of multiple “sub-personalities.” I’m not talking about this in a psychological sense. We’ve all noticed that different voices speak within us in different situations and with different people, and that we vary in many ways, such as tolerance, trust, openness, and self-expression. In fact, the English writer W. Somerset Maugham expressed this this way: “I recognize that I am made up of several persons and that the person that at the moment has the upper hand will inevitably give place to another.” The English language, when dealing with natural internal complexity, refers to this situation as “multiplicity”.
This “taking control” part is exactly the tool I mentioned above, the one we all have. Imagine yourself as a spaceship. A spaceship capable of traveling in a wide range of directions, from deep space to orbiting Earth. The crew is the Smurfs (yes, those blue, little, cute Smurfs). Other spacecraft, planets, stars, meteors, dangers, and beauty may come your way. Where do you go, and how fast? Where do you take breaks? When do you refuel? When do you undergo maintenance? How often do you return to the Smurf village? And the gist of the whole story: WHO IS ANSWERING THESE QUESTIONS? AT ANY GIVEN TIME, WHICH OF YOUR SUB-PERSONALITIES IS COMMANDING THE SHIP? Which Smurf? Would you put Angry Smurf ahead to visit a friendly planet? If you’re in danger, would you let Sleepy Smurf take command? If Wise Smurf were always in charge, how much time would there be for fun? Or would you put Lazy Smurf in charge of your ship’s maintenance? Most importantly, when and where should you listen to Papa Smurf? When should he manage all your Smurfs?
In short, we have a wonderful tool for reaching our higher state, using the resources we already have. The joy we experience together when a coachee, during coaching, identifies their Smurfs in the cockpit and repositions them is incredible. I wholeheartedly encourage everyone to do the same.
Stay with love and smurfy!
Nil Kalagoglu, August 16, 2016
Exintus™ Coaching 